At our Centre, we understand that early childhood is a time of rapid growth, development, and learning. Across all age groups, children are learning how to express their needs, emotions, and ideas — and sometimes, this can involve what we call “big feelings” and physical behaviours such as biting, pushing, or scratching.

These behaviours, while understandably concerning for families, are typical parts of early development. Children are still developing the language, emotional regulation, and social skills they need to express themselves effectively. When those tools aren't fully developed yet, some children may use physical means to communicate.

What We’re Doing at the Centre

Please rest assured that our educators are actively and compassionately supporting children through these important stages of development. Our approach includes:

1. Modelling gentle hands and respectful interactions
2. Helping children identify and regulate emotions
3. Offering clear, consistent guidance
4. Providing a safe and nurturing environment
5. Promoting empathy and problem-solving skills

We also increase educator support when needed and consult with external professionals to ensure every child receives individualised care and attention.

We understand how emotional it can be when your child is involved in a difficult peer interaction — whether they’ve been hurt or have hurt someone else. These experiences can stir up a range of feelings, and we want you to know: you’re not alone.

If Your Child Has Hurt Another Child

It’s normal to feel concerned, embarrassed, or unsure when your child has physically hurt another. You might question what it means about your child — or about your parenting. Please know: these behaviours are developmentally expected at this stage, and with patient support and guidance, children do learn other ways to express themselves.

Here are some ways to support your child at home:

1. Stay calm and consistent
   Use a firm but gentle approach: “I can’t let you hurt people,” and guide them toward safer alternatives.
2. Name their emotions
   Help your child understand their feelings and behaviours. “You were really frustrated because you wanted that toy.”
3. Give them words
   Practice simple phrases like “My turn,” “Stop,” or “Help” to build their communication toolkit.
4. Use books and role play
   Stories and pretend play help children explore emotions and social situations in an engaging and safe way. We’re happy to lend books from our collection.
5. Celebrate positive behaviour
   Acknowledge moments of kindness: “I noticed you offered a toy — that was thoughtful.”

If Your Child Has Been Hurt

It can be deeply upsetting to learn that your child has been hurt by another. You may feel worried, protective, or even angry. Please know that we take every incident seriously and prioritise each child’s emotional, physical, and social wellbeing.

Here’s how you can support your child at home:

1. Acknowledge their feelings
   “That must have hurt. It’s okay to feel upset when someone does that.”
2. Expand emotional vocabulary
   Use books or pictures to help them recognise and talk about their feelings.
3. Practice assertive communication
   Role play using phrases like “Stop,” or “That hurts me,” to build confidence and self-advocacy.
4. Reinforce positive social experiences
   Remind them of times they enjoyed playing with others to rebuild confidence and resilience.

Working Together with Families

In early childhood, most children will, at some point, both experience and initiate physical behaviours. These moments are part of early social learning and are not a reflection of a child’s character.

To ensure the wellbeing of all children and to maintain privacy and respect:

1. We never share the names of other children involved in incidents.
2. We kindly ask that longer conversations about incidents take place privately (via email or phone), to avoid children overhearing potentially sensitive discussions.
3. We will always inform you if your child is experiencing or displaying a pattern of behaviour, whether they are being hurt or doing the hurting.

Our focus is not on blame, but on understanding, growth, and building a caring and respectful community. Thank you for partnering with us as we guide and support all children in developing empathy, communication skills, and emotional regulation.

If you have any questions or concerns, please don’t hesitate to reach out. We’re here for you and appreciate your trust in us.